Emotion Training – TED & 99u talks

Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability

Brene Brown: Listening to Shame

Brene Brown: The Price of Invulnerability

Glennon Doyle Melton: Lessons from the Mental Hospital

Judith Orloff, MD: The Ecstasy of Surrender

Brene Brown: Stop Focusing on Your Critics

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  1. MGrodski Post author

    The quote which changed Brene’s paradigm of vulnerability and courage:

    “It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.”

    ― Theodore Roosevelt

  2. MGrodski Post author

    What do shame, vulnerability, addiction have to do with sport, with training, with peak performance?

    Glennon in her video discusses how some reveal their wounds and scars on the outside so they are easy to see, yet those wounds and scars are looked down upon because the person is seen as out of control. In sport, wounds and scars take another form – injury, blow ups, exhaustion – but unlike cutting, eating disorders, or other socially unacceptable expressions of difficulty with dealing and managing with pain which screams from within, the wounds and scars self-inflicted by training are often applauded, thought of as badges of honor, worthiness, even success.

    For those who believe that this message applies only to amateur and age group athletes, it doesn’t. This message applies equally to masters athletes, professional athletes, even Olympians. Just because they have managed to keep their pain locked down more securely, kept it together longer, even been awarded for their persistence by a podium position, it doesn’t necessarily reflect that which is within. Unfortunately, in many cases it is only evidence of how hard a person is running away from themselves (and not necessarily towards any finish line).

    Pursuing peak performance through training is not supposed to be a tool to build one’s armor so that you can withdraw from the world, sport is not supposed to be a means with which to hurt yourself. Sport is supposed to be a way to connect… with ourselves, with those around us, it is another means with which to explore our world.

    As a coach, I see far too many athletes using sport and performance training as a ‘solution’ for dealing with pain. Instead of facing their fears, uncertainties, and pains; they use the pain available through training to numb and/or exhaust themselves so that they don’t have to deal with anything. Training is used as an escape.

    How different is this from Glennon who shared how she would binge and purge until she was too exhausted to deal with anything… her feelings, fears, emotions. The problem is that one is seen as a problem, which then offers opportunity to challenge and resolve the underlying issues; the other is seen not as a problem but a solution in life: toughness, pain-tolerance, the ability to push harder than anyone else, which is then turned into attributes synonymous with champions, victors, and heroes.

    Sport is a double edged sword: it can be the means to connect, to connection, and exploration, and it can also be the means with which to inflict incredible amounts of self abuse. It all depends in how you use it.

    If you are an athlete or a parent of an athlete, then ask yourself or your child the question…. why are you training? What is the goal? Is it self improvement, exploration of your potential, joy in pure play and fun, curiosity to what lies beneath? If not, then what is being sought with each workout? Is the relationship with sport that which it should be, healthy?

  3. MGrodski Post author

    Pro triathlete and resident physician at Michigan State University Sam Kennedy is researching the effects of endurance training and eating disorders among triathletes. Details:

    “Based on the unique qualities of triathlon, which create a competitive environment and encourages lean bodies, there is great concern for disordered eating among triathletes. A few years ago while on an airplane to my first race as a professional triathlete, I read an article about the dangers of eating disorders. The article interviewed a young rising British triathlete who retired due to the destructiveness of her eating disorder. I wanted to try to do something, anything, to help the future of the sport I love and the athletes who also love the sport. As I am also a resident physician at Michigan State University specializing in psychiatry, I had the opportunity to begin a research study on the prevalence of disordered eating among triathletes. So far, there is little data on this topic. But triathletes continue to push themselves to complete more weekly training hours, compete in longer distance races, hire coaches to improve performance and strive for higher levels of competitiveness, which may put them at higher risk of disordered eating.

    The purpose of this study is to determine the prevalence of disordered eating among all ranges of competitiveness, age, and distances race among triathletes. Hopefully, the data will help to determine if certain groups are at a higher risk of disordered eating and this will allow for the creation and implementation of interventions to help all triathletes. But in order to have valid research, I need as many responses to the survey as possible! Please consider filling out the survey, which will only take about 15 minutes. Thank you very much for your time and please feel free to contact me with any questions!”

    Survey Link

    Posted by: LAVA Editors , April 15, 2015

    Link to article at LAVA Magazine

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